Currently Listening To - Seven Collar T-Shirt - My Generationokay, bout the update, i think i'll just skip it lah. cant even remember what happened last week. hah. but whatever it is, i'll just put up some photos (just to colour up this blank white blog of mine).
Today, i want to write about, break ups. (fyi, my relationship is fine okay? just want to talk about it here lah)
well, the reason for this topic is, well, to be honest, a close friend of mine had gone through this recently. so, just consider this as a tribute lah. i think. ngah.
okay, i think most of us have gone through breakups. (for those who never went through this, i would like to advice, stay where you are. breakups is hell). well this is my personal experience. and in this experience, i went through all the
5 stages of grief; denial, anger, bargaining, depression and
acceptance. and i think its not in a certain order (except for the acceptance part lah, its usually the last one)
a breakup is very much a shitty experience. the first thing i remembered when i got dumped, was
denying. seriously, i denied that i was dumped (kinda lame rite?). i was saying no, no, no, this is not happening. then i think the next part was
bargaining. i was like "yes, i'm going to change, i'm sorry. i wont do that again." so that i could save the doomed relationship.
but when that didnt work, i went into
depression. that phase to me was, the darkest days i ever had. i went through self-abusal in many ways. i kept torturing myself cause at that time, i blamed myself for everything. and yes, i never liked that part very much.
then, i went into the
anger phase. and yes, i diverted the blame not to myself this time. i started becoming very bitter. i started to hate the fact that why i got dumped, why this happened to me. this was the period where i think hatred conquered the best of me. then lastly, it was the acceptance. well, for my case, i accepted the whole fact that i got dumped, and started to ask myself, how long will i have to be this way; torturing myself for something i cant do anything about? why dont i just move along?
for me, i am thankful that the acceptance didnt took long. for some people, it took them like years. well, as most drugs are labelled; results may vary.
so, yes. i know you're pretty shitted at the moment. so, i think i'll pass on this advice which was given to me;
even though things are really fucked up, be thankful that you still have friends/people that cares. if you cant do this for yourself, then do it for them; family, and friends. just know that they'll be there everytime to pick you up when you fall, to remind you of yourself when you forgot who you are.there you go. i am thankful that you didnt go through what i've gone through, and i praise you for not doing things that i did when i was in your shoes, and you seem to handle things way better than i did. and yes, this is a compliment.
so, not to be a cliche, if you'd wanna do something crazy, just count me in aite? anything to cheer you up (or even, hook you up with a new chick. hahahahha! i know we have the sort-of same taste in girls)
the somewhat suitable word for this whole thing, shit happens. you just need to wash off that crap and go on lah. lets go bungee jumping! weeeeiiuuuwwweeeeiiiuu
as if malaysia has bungee jumping lah kan?
so bro, we've been through so many things, you were there when i was down. this time, i got your back.
p/s: i'm soooo gonna get hit for doing this. shait.
picture of the day:
a worthy photojournalist shot rite? hahahah.
